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I'm so glad you're here. In 2015 I took a trip to Paris after a deep desire for something BIG and out of my comfort zone and reach to happen to me. Of course, it took me a few years before I finally got to my coveted destination, but when I did - my perspective and approach to living changed. Tres Cliché, I know. I created Bonjour To Life in the hopes that it inspires you to become your lifestyle connoisseur. Bienvenue Cherie. 


How to reinvent yourself & level up your life? In a video game or a job, to level up would require your character to acquire some skills, points, strengths, and other attributes, or else they would keep repeating the same round. That’s what life is almost all about; a game of leveling up, and sadly, not everyone does.

Why is that? Is it because it’s not available to everyone? Or is it a case of comfort and complacency? I believe that for one to level up their life, there should be a deep desire to do so.

Whether it is in material, financial, physical, health, business, career, or otherwise. And there seems to be a trend where women are told to level up, HOWEVER; the guidance is mostly from the outside.

Which, I think, is not ideal and eventually will fizzle out. So how do you level up your game for lasting change? It all begins with an internal shift, and in this post, I will share 3 things I did & you can try to help you jumpstart your level up & reinvention journey.

How to level up your life & acquire some skills, points, strength, and other attributes. How to transform your life at any age.

First of all, I troubleshoot my life.

A great tool I use to navigate that process is the wheel of life, as it helps create a clear picture of what’s going on.

I will say that as you troubleshoot, denial might arise. You may be inclined to ignore the signs, accept truths, and judge yourself. That’s not the purpose of this exercise. It’s about being real and honest with yourself and choosing to face the facts for what it is. This will help you intentionally create your life, therefore; be open-minded about it.

How to transform your life at any age.
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Next, level up my goals!

It’s easy to set goals, but when your goals scare you, you discover what you’re truly made of. The goal itself is just the outcome, but to achieve the goal, you MUST learn strategy, create plans, and execute them. You must develop high-performance skills.

As I created next-level goals for myself, I was able to build my life. I was able to find my purpose and I was able to mold into a high-value woman. My standards raised, my career grew, and above all, my confidence and courage. And I did make mistakes along the way, but that’s all part of the journey.

I was a timid girl who sat on the sidelines and hid in the shadows. And I learned that if I wanted to achieve the goals I needed to refine myself. I needed to embrace my inner femme fatale, and I needed to change my mindset. That took time.

Next-level goals build your character and push you beyond your comfort zone. You might fail the first few times, but if your desire is strong & you are your motivational driver, you will pursue them.

Then, I began to reinvent & level up my external life.

Let’s take a backtrack to the top of this post where I mentioned the great emphasis on leveling up from the outside. When you couple the internal shifting with the external shifting your results last.

There were many stages that I went through in this game, and refining my external life was one of them that saw a lot of that. From trading partying to dinners and lunch dates to eating on my sofa to getting a dining table. It was the small tweaks that gradually taught me the true meaning of leveling up.

Enhancing the way that I dressed, my physical self-care, my eating habits, what I watched on tv, the people I followed, and investing in coaching, all made a difference. As you level up, your values will change and your external world will begin to reflect that.

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Reinvent & Level Up Gradually

You won’t get lasting results if you only refine the outside and your internal programming remains the same. I tried that. And what I experienced was frustration, overwhelm, and comparisons.

You also won’t create lasting change if you rush the process. I also tried that. Pace yourself, and gradually build instead of trying to replicate what others were doing.

And that’s why it’s important to troubleshoot your life to see what YOU want and work on creating it gradually.

I invite you to ask yourself that question. What does your level-up look like to you? What are its core elements of it? How are you showing up? What does your wardrobe look like? How do you feel every day? What career do you have? When you begin to identify those key elements, you will truly create lasting transformation.

If you desire to live a life of rich nourishment, abundance, wealth, and pleasure, you must begin to think of what that looks like and intentionally create it.

Share with me below, what does your level-up look like? xx Bisous.

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  1. Sama says:

    I so agree with each point here on your article :)we need to create what we wants to get by ourself, and in my opinion it’s a gradual process so patience is a must 🙂

    • Menellia Valcent says:

      Exactly darling. It’s a process and requires patience. Thanks for sharing your feedback.xx Bisous.

  2. Cynthia says:

    Love that I’ve found another woman who writes about the same stuff I do! I really enjoyed this post! I actually started the year with the word Elevate… Definitely a level up word! Thanks for some extra motivation and inspiration to aim higher!

    • Menellia Valcent says:

      Ooo lovely. That’s a great word choice indeed. Mine is strong. Thanks for sharing darling.xx Bisous.

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